How to Help Kids Open Up: Effective Tips for Encouraging Communication
By Young Sprouts Therapy

By Young Sprouts Therapy
Many children carry heavy emotional loads that go unnoticed. Children may encounter different situations that contribute to their emotional suppression, such as academic pressures or family changes. Whether it’s anxiety about school, confusion from a family change, or internal pressure to meet expectations, kids often don’t have the tools—or the space—to talk about how they feel. In a community like Vaughan, where families navigate a mix of cultural expectations, academic demands, and fast-paced schedules, kids may struggle even more to express themselves.
Bottled-up emotions don’t disappear—they show up later in outbursts, shutdowns, or persistent anxiety. As caregivers and professionals, recognizing the early signs and providing supportive outlets is critical for long-term well-being.
Understanding why children hide their feelings is the first step toward helping them open up. Here are the most common reasons:
Some kids hold back tears or anger because they’re afraid of being “too much.” They may have learned—intentionally or not—that expressing strong feelings leads to consequences like punishment, shame, or withdrawal of affection, often resulting in them acting out in other ways.
Children often don’t have the ability or the words to describe what they’re experiencing. Instead of saying “I’m overwhelmed” or “I feel anxious,” they might act out, stay silent, or redirect the emotion into unrelated behaviours.
Empathetic children may bottle up feelings to avoid upsetting their caregivers. A child might think, “Mom’s already stressed—I don’t want to make things worse,” leading them to internalize sadness or frustration.
In some households, emotional expression may be discouraged—especially among boys. While some children may openly express their emotions, other kids might suppress their feelings due to cultural or familial expectations. Kids learn early what’s “acceptable” to feel, and often adapt by suppressing anything outside those boundaries.
Children who’ve experienced trauma or chronic stress may avoid feelings as a protective response, often resulting in upset children who struggle to express their emotions. For these kids, emotions feel unsafe. These deeper emotional blocks often benefit from targeted approaches like cognitive behavioural therapy, which helps them reframe distorted thoughts and reconnect with safe expression.
Not all emotional suppression is loud—sometimes it’s invisible. Here are subtle (and not-so-subtle) indicators that your child may be holding in big feelings:
Each of these signs may stem from multiple causes, but taken together, they can paint a clear picture that your child is struggling to process something big, often reflected in their behavior.
Before a child can share what’s going on inside, they need to feel emotionally safe—free from judgment, interruption, or pressure. Building this kind of trust takes time, but even small adjustments to your daily interactions can make a big impact.
Emotion coaching, a concept introduced by Dr. John Gottman, teaches parents to validate their child’s feelings while guiding them toward understanding and managing those emotions. It involves various strategies to help teach kids to understand and manage their emotions effectively. It involves:
This technique helps children feel seen and respected—foundations for emotional safety.
Children thrive on practiced structure. When they know what to expect, they’re more likely to open up and express emotions. Predictable routines also build trust by reinforcing your reliability as a caregiver.
Often, we jump to correct or reframe our child’s feelings before truly hearing them. Non-judgmental listening is crucial in helping children develop self regulation skills. Instead, try simply listening—with eye contact, nods, and short affirmations like “I hear you” or “That sounds hard.” Let silence do the heavy lifting. Children may not open up instantly, but feeling heard is the beginning of healing.
And remember, you’re not alone. Many parents in Vaughan benefit from professional guidance. Our therapy team in Vaughan can help you navigate the emotional needs of your child with compassion and care.
Children often express what they cannot say. That’s why therapeutic approaches that bypass traditional talk therapy are so effective for young clients. At Young Sprouts Therapy, we offer several evidence-based, child-centered modalities that meet children where they are:
Play is a child’s first language. Through toys, games, and storytelling, play therapy gives kids a symbolic way to process complex feelings. Therapists observe the play themes and gently guide the child toward self-awareness and healing, helping them manage their emotions. Learn more about how we offer play therapy in Vaughan as a core service for emotional support.
Not all feelings have words. Art therapy allows children to draw, paint, or sculpt their emotions in a non-verbal, pressure-free environment. A therapist trained in child psychology and art interpretation helps decode these expressions, fostering emotional literacy and safety, especially when dealing with difficult emotions. Explore how art therapy in Vaughan supports this process.
For some children, rhythm and melody are natural emotional outlets. Music therapy uses instruments, singing, and songwriting to promote self-expression, emotional regulation, and self-esteem. Whether it’s drumming out frustration or composing a calming tune, music therapy in Vaughan creates a soothing space for connection.
These creative therapies are not just “extras”—they are essential tools in helping kids build emotional awareness and feel empowered to express themselves safely.
Sometimes, despite your best efforts at home, your child may still struggle to open up. That’s not a sign of failure—it’s a sign that they might benefit from more structured, therapeutic support. A licensed child therapist can offer a safe, confidential environment designed to help kids explore and express their emotions in a healthy way.
Here are some signs it may be time to seek professional help:
These are not issues a child should have to navigate alone. If you’re noticing these signs, know that support is available and effective.
In Vaughan and surrounding communities, child therapy options are growing and accessible. Families can work with clinicians trained in methods tailored to kids’ developmental needs—like play-based therapies, creative modalities, and structured interventions such as cognitive behavioural therapy. For a deeper understanding of mental health standards and professional ethics in Canada, the Canadian Psychological Association provides excellent and helpful resources.
Every child deserves to feel seen, heard, and supported. It’s important to encourage children to express their emotions openly. If your little one seems to be carrying big emotions in silence, reaching out can make all the difference.
At Young Sprouts Therapy, we’re passionate about helping children express themselves with confidence. Our team in Vaughan offers a range of supports—from play therapy to art therapy, music therapy, and more—guided by skilled professionals who truly care.
If you’re unsure where to start, explore our team, read about our approach, or reach out to schedule a consultation. We’re here to support both you and your child on this journey.